How many times in your life have you wondered if the timing of something changed the outcome? Personally, I feel that timing is everything and also something that we really have little control over in the general sense. Sometimes we have good timing, sometimes we have bad timing. I’ve had my share of both.
As far as writing my first novel goes, the timing was finally just right. I was at a place in my life where I had the opportunity and support to follow a dream. Now it was up to me to find the time to make it happen.
When I first started telling people I was writing a book, I was constantly asked how I found the time to do it. The simple answer is, I made time. Being a business owner and mom/wife keeps me pretty busy from 9-5. I also love tennis so I spend a lot of time on the tennis court. Hanging out with friends is also a huge priority. It’s definitely a balancing act and something I regularly struggle with.
Even as I write this, I feel torn that I’m not working on my second novel. And when I’m writing my second novel, I feel guilty that I’m not doing all of the other things I need to do, like laundry. Oh yeah, and work my real paying job! It’s a vicious cycle.
So how do I manage to get anything done?
I just had to decide to give certain things up. I watch way less TV and only committed to one new fall show. My DVR is one of my best friends. I sleep less because I write after my kids are in bed and before they wake up in the morning (which means very late and very early hours!) My house might be a little messier than normal, but because I’m the only one who seems to notice, I’m learning to be okay with it. I guess you could say I’ve learned to put things into perspective and to prioritize my to-do list.
I have to give credit where it’s due though. My family has been super supportive. They know I’m writing when I’m in front of the computer with my headphones on. My boys go to Dad for things. They leave me be. I couldn’t make it work without their support. In my opinion, that’s the key to making it all work.
That, and good timing.